How do you know when to ejaculate?
If you feel an overwhelming sense that you must ejaculate because you are so horny, and you can only think about sex, I suggest you attempt to continue transmuting the sexual energy using exercise. If you've engaged in plenty of exercise, and you still feel the same way, it's probably a good time to just ejaculate so you keep your sanity.
The idea here is sexual transmutation is a process. When you first begin on this path, your natural habits are going to want to take over. It takes time to understand the process. Do not try to rush through it or think you have to last a certain number of days. Simply try to stay balanced in your thoughts and life.
When you notice yourself getting way out of balance, then it's time to stop the process and start again the next day. Click here to see my writing on this topic.
I published my initial experiences with sexual transmutation in February, 2010.
In the past three months, I've come to new levels of understanding that I'd like to share.
1) I've realized the importance of being firmly grounded.
The idea here is not new. You should focus on your breathing and the energy in your body. Become aware of it. Try to understand it.
By increasing your awareness of the feelings you are experiencing at any moment in time, you will learn to recognize changes in your body and energy levels.
2) I also recommend you focus on particular goal(s), business idea(s) or success metric(s) you would like to achieve.
After practicing sexual transmutation for some time, you will begin to notice your energy levels increasing every day. You should use the methods I describe in the ebook to transmute this sexual energy into more productive forms.
If you do not have a specific focus, you may find yourself unable to achieve anyhing remarkable.
You will certainly have more energy. However, if you're not transmuting this sexual energy and focusing it on specific goal(s), you will disperse your energy in all directions (which is bad).
3) The importance of being active
Ideally, you should maintain a very active lifestyle. This means meeting with friends often, finding new social groups, experiencing new things in life, swimming in the ocean, exercising hard daily, working on your business, reading books, etc.
When you are active in a "positive" way, you are automatically transmuting this energy. You do not have to even think about it. It happens naturally.
I refer to "positive" activity as the actions that are leading you closer to your goals.
Without an active lifestyle, you may fail to transmute the energy well enough. As you may know, the sexual energy is a very difficult energy to control when activated. It tends to overcome you if you are not transmuting it with daily action towards your goals.
4) Embrace the Sexual Feelings in your body
This was a big lesson for me. When you have not ejaculated in a few days, you will naturally feel like having sex or ejaculating as soon as possible.
If you attempt to "resist" these feelings, they will only get stronger. So you definitely do not want to "resist" these feelings in your body.
What you should do is embrace your sexual energy. Find pleasure in the feeling of being aroused. Believe that your sexual energy is united and in harmony with your desire for achievement, understanding and love.
5) What to do if your sexual energy is too much to handle
Obviously, for many guys it's going to be difficult to refrain from ejaculating for a week. This is understandable. In fact, when you first start it's better to just go 2 or 3 days at a time without ejaculating. Then, progress by adding more days.
If the sexual energy seems like it's too much for you to handle, or you feel tempted to masturbate, then I suggest you go for a run, do 50 push-ups, or go to the gym. If you sit in front of your computer, lay in bed, or do "nothing" then your natural habits and routines will take over.
6) The importance of Yin energy
As guys, we generally have yang energy. Women generally have yin energy.
As we build up yang energy, it is good to be in contact with female (yin) energy. This could be achieved through touch, massage, or sharing company with females. Even talking on the phone, or engaging with women in any setting will be beneficial.
Basically, what I'm saying is that being in the company of females will help you transmute the sexual energy and make you feel much better.
Of course, sex is the ultimate exchange of energy. However, it has been my experience that unless the sex is based on a true spiritual connection, then having sex is ultimately not going to be beneficial for you.
Remember, all my writing is based only upon my own experiences. You should find your own path through this. I am only writing what I've experienced during the past year.
(Guys - This does not give you any permission to touch women in an inappropriate way. Don't be creepy and take this too far.)